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  • Reply to blog post: My Future Husband by germangayboy
    Comment written 5 months ago

    I meant to add yesterday, no one is defined by their sexuality. Why announce yourself as a gay boy? is that the most important part of you? surely other things such as honesty, integrity, health, energy, enthusiasm... are all more important in a friend? Life is always difficult in a new country -- especially for a European going to the USA, which is the most religious, narrow-minded, bigoted and worst educated so-called democracy on earth. I'd prefer to live anywhere but the USA! Why not go back to Europe and civilization? We only left because the Eu hadn't been invented and i lived in France and my partner in holland... if we could have, we'd have stayed. Be very careful about announcing your sexuality in the usa... it is definitely not Europe! there is a murder every ten seconds or something, and too many are gays.

    As for pop singers... have you known anyone who is a big name in show business? stay well away... it is not a good environment for anyone seeking happiness...

  • Reply to blog post: The Perks of Being a Wallflower by germangayboy
    Comment written 5 months ago

    Yes. stick to greasy. Look! You are too young to be seeking a permanent lover -- your character, likes, dislikes and so on are not fixed. you have a great deal to learn and see, and do. the way to do this is to do things that interest you. you like playing music? join a group that plays stuff you like. go to places you like, and by doing what you like you will meet others who like the same things. Don't have a picture of the person you want to 'marry'... be open and prepared for surprises. live life selfishly and to the full until about the age of 24-25 when you really know who you are, what you value and so on, you will meet the man of your dreams... at least, that's how it worked for me, and 42 years later we're still in love... patience, young man. If you want an interesting person to love you, make sure you are both interesting and lovable. see you on Greasy.

  • Reply to blog post: A Turning Point? by confusedjared
    Comment written 5 months ago

    Good one. For what it's worth, We have had one rule... NEVER GO TO BED ON AN ARGUMENT. We always talk it out until it is resolved with a kiss, a cuddle and a promise never to be so silly again -- until the next time of course. Lying in bed with problems unresolved is a recipe for disaster. one or the other or both build up imaginary resentments and scenarios that explode later.

    EXCELLENT that you have learned not to blame. The funny thing is that if you blame yourself in an argument/discussion, then your partner will usually leap to your defence and say "No, no... you aren;t to blame... he was also the cause and so it all ends happily... this time. But if you think you reach a stage in a relationship when there are never any disputes -- forget it. The only people who never argue are those who have stopped caring for each other.

  • Reply to blog post: An Unexpected Night by confusedjared
    Comment written 5 months ago

    Americans are such silly puritans. You all seem to think sex is basically bad. Sex is sex. It's natural and the urge comes upon us at the most inopportune times. Casual sex with someone, as long as you take precautions, is no more than a deep, meaningful conversation... actually, it is less, because it doesn't really touch you deep down. Don't listen to those who tell you  you will live with guilt, you should feel guilty, you have to get it off your chest. that is utter crap. That's what religionists do to you... make you feel guilty and then you are in their power. You do not have to feel guilty for doing what is natural, and especially as your intention os not to hurt. I repeat, why tell Derek something if it means nothing and will hurt him? Be sensible.  casual sex occasionally is not a reason for a guilt trip. a relationship based on guilt is doomed. In a few years you will tell Derek about your few casual flings in the past, and he will tell you he has done the same thing. It wouldnt surprise me if some of your intimacty problems stem from that. how do you know he isnt' feeling guilty for doing what you did.?

    Stop all this guilt crap. you are human. you try to live as well as you can. you make mistakes -- learn from them, and if you do something really bad, feel shame. but never guilt - that is what others lay on you. if you allow guilt to infest you, you will never be happy.

  • Reply to blog post: An Unexpected Night by confusedjared
    Comment written 5 months ago

    Why should you tell Derek? A fling is a fling is a fling.... sometimes that's all that's needed to make us realise our partner is, after all the best person to live with. If you intend to leave Derek and set up house with your new man... then definitely you have to tell him. if you intend to see the new bloke on a regilar basis, then you are deceiving both of them badly. If you don't intend to let the new relationship develop further, then you will only tell Derek if you want to hurt him. Do you want to hurt him?

    Hans and I have been in a monogamous, loving relationship for the last 42 years, since we were 25. Occasionally I've had a fling outside the relationship, but it was purely physical, as Martin wisely says and has no more meaning than a wank, although it does boost the morale to know you are still fanciable. We used to go to saunas and if one of us saw someone desirable we'd be free to have a cuddle... but only there. Neither of us like threesomes -- we tried it twice and hated it. After 7 years, what do you expect? the world to stand still when you meet? Was your relationship based purely on sex or are there other things. Share things. talk and talk and talk and listen and listen and listen to each other about your daily lives, hiopes fears, interestes. thoughts, dreams... There are lots of times I've wondered if i would prefer to be single like Martin... but we are all different and I feel incomplete without another person in the house to share everything. All this encounter with another guy means is you are perfectly normal... if other guys stop interesting you intellectually and physically, then start to worry. If it's casual -- forget about it. If it's serious, do something about it.

    Personally, i'm pleased i stuck with it. we are very happy, know everything about each other, and I can't think of another person I'd sooner be with. But a relationship requires work, just as much as being single. If we start to take each other for granted, troubles occur. Talk about your relationship with Derek... but never, ever start blaming. never! that is the end. Neither of you are perfect, so neither can expect the other to be perfect.

  • Reply to blog post: by
    Comment written 6 months ago

    Well done! Remember the old saying... 'Breakfast like a Queen, Lunch like a mother, and supper like a pauper'. food taken at night sits and builds up fat because you arent doing anything to use it up.

  • Reply to blog post: just a song by itsjustme
    Comment written 6 months ago

    Unfortunately, SBS, the Australian TV channel for non english speakers, only broadcasts the Dutch News, no other programmes -- although we get films and documentaries of course. we also get the news from france, which i watch, and spain, that hans watches, and italy and about three dozen other countries -- everywhere, in fact that immigrants have come from. Also loads of films, all non american! thank goodness. I have not seen an american film i like for years. intellectually and emotionally i am a european from the 1960's and -70's. that's gone, so I'll stay here.

    BTW. this is my last post on blogster... I'm quitting... don't want to be on the same site as Joezs... 'see' you on greasy.

  • Reply to a comment on: Why I am deleting certain comments by greatmartin
    Comment written 6 months ago

    Well said... I dont want to share a site with him, so am packing my bags.

    XXXp.

  • Reply to blog post: Who Needs Speedy Gonsalez? by lunarhunk
    Comment written 6 months ago

    If there's plenty of hot pepper then that can go through you like a dose of salts and leve you feeling lighter than air... Bon appetite

  • Reply to blog post: just a song by itsjustme
    Comment written 6 months ago

    Nice guys in the video... The white and black arrow stays in the middle of the screen all the time, which spoils it a bit. i had to download stuff to be able to see it.  Is it the words or the tune you like about the song?

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